LADIES!10Amazing Facts About Orgasm You Need To Know!

Yo! Don't be shy…orgasms are as much a part of women's health as dental
floss—but a lot more fun. For all the things you've been dying to find out
as well as things you've never even thought of, expand your knowledge
about the "big O" with this list of enlightening facts.

1. Orgasms can relieve pain.
Got a headache? Maybe you should have sex after all. "There is some
evidence that orgasms can relieve all kinds of pain—including pain from
arthritis, pain after surgery and even pain during childbirth," notes Lisa
Stern, RN, MSN, a nurse practitioner who works with Planned Parenthood in
Los Angeles and blogs at Gynfizz.com. "The mechanism is largely due to the
body's release of a chemical called oxytocin during orgasm," she says.
"Oxytocin facilitates bonding, relaxation and other positive emotional
states." While the pain relief from orgasm is short-lived—usually only
about eight to 10 minutes—she points to past research indicating that even
thinking about sex can help alleviate pain.

2. Condom use doesn't affect orgasm quality.
In case you're wondering if a condom has anything to do with the quality
of your orgasm, don't. "Women are equally likely to experience orgasm with
or without a condom, dispelling myths that condoms don't make for good
sex," says Debby Herbenick, PhD, a research scientist at Indiana
University and author of Because It Feels Good. "In fact, condoms may help
a couple spend more time having sex, as a man doesn't have to 'pull out'
quickly if he's worried about ejaculating too soon," she says. If your guy
is resistant to wearing a condom because of lack of sensation, consider
manual stimulation first, before intercourse, so he can have an equally
enjoyable experience.

3. Thirty percent of women have trouble reaching orgasm.
If you've ever had trouble climaxing, you're not alone. According to
Planned Parenthood statistics, as many as 1 in 3 women have trouble
reaching orgasm when having sex. And as many as 80 percent of women have
difficulty with orgasm from vaginal intercourse alone. Clitoral
stimulation during intercourse can help, says Stern, but so can medical
treatment. "Female sexual dysfunction (FSD), which encompasses the
inability to orgasm, is very common—as high as 43 percent, according to
some surveys—and has been a topic of much debate and medical investigation
lately," she says. "For some women, topical testosterone therapies or some
oral medications can be helpful, but few medical treatments have solid
evidence behind them." Because FSD may be associated with certain medical
conditions, be sure to see your doctor to rule out things like thyroid
disease, depression or diabetes.

4. Finding your G-spot may improve the likelihood of orgasm.
Can you identify your G-spot? The "G" refers to Ernst Gräfenberg, MD, a
German gynecologist who is credited with "discovering" it in the 1950s,
and sex experts have long touted this area of female genitalia, which is
believed to contain a large number of nerve endings, as the key to helping
women achieve longer and stronger orgasm. But it's a controversial topic.
Researchers in England refuted its existence recently, even after Italian
researchers supposedly found the spot on ultrasound and published their
findings in The Journal of Sexual Medicine. Still, sex educators like Los
Angeles–based Ava Cadell support the existence of the G-spot, and
encourage women to find theirs. While the location may be slightly
different in all women, it's most often found inside the vagina and is
characterized by a "rougher" texture.

5. Orgasm gets better with age.
Sure, there are plenty of things to gripe about when it comes to age, but
your sex life may actually improve—specifically the quality and frequency
of orgasm, reports Dr. Herbenick. "Orgasm becomes easier with age," she
says. "As an example, while 61 percent of women ages 18 to 24 experienced
orgasm the last time they had sex, 65 percent of women in their 30s did
and about 70 percent of women in their 40s and 50s did." Though the survey
didn't indicate why orgasms come easier with age, we can assume that as
women become more sexually experienced, they have more confidence in the
bedroom and therefore enjoy themselves more. Additionally, the trust and
intimacy that most women experience in long-term relationships can help
improve sexual confidence as well.

6. Women who mix things up in the bedroom have more frequent orgasm.
If you have trouble reaching orgasm during intercourse, consider switching
things up, says Dr. Herbenick. "It is significantly easier for women to
experience orgasm when they engage in a variety of sex acts as opposed to
just one act," she says. "For example, vaginal sex plus oral sex would be
linked to a higher likelihood of orgasm than either one of them alone.
This may be because more sex acts mean that people spend more time having
sex."

7. A woman's sexual self-esteem can affect the quality of her orgasms.
Research shows that how a woman feels about her genitals is linked to the
quality of her orgasms. "As a women's health clinician, I can vouch for
the fact that every vagina looks different and there is no 'perfect' way
for a vagina to look," says Stern. "As long as your vagina is pain-free
and you don't have any abnormal discharge, sores or other medical
problems, you can consider yourself healthy and normal." Increase your
orgasm potential by increasing your confidence, she says. "It's important
to treat yourself the way you would want others to treat you—send yourself
healthy, positive messages about yourself and your body." Another trick:
Pull out a hand mirror and take a look! Getting to know yourself down
there is the first step in feeling confident about your parts.

8. There is an orgasm "gap."
While it's true that a small number of men have trouble with orgasm, sex
experts report that it's rare. Instead, a significant percentage of women
report not having had an orgasm the last time they had sex, even when
their male partner thought they had. "We still have an orgasm gap," notes
Dr. Herbenick. "While 85 percent of men thought their partner had an
orgasm during their most recent episode of sex, only 64 percent of women
reported having an orgasm." The cure? It's complicated, says Dr.
Herbenick, but women who are comfortable with and understand their body's
pleasure points can often learn to orgasm regularly

9. In rare cases, orgasm can happen without genital stimulation.
We've all heard about women who can orgasm while sitting on a train or
while getting a massage, but it's no urban legend. Experts say it's a real
phenomenon. "I had a friend who had an orgasm every time she used the
treadmill," says Stern. "If that happened to all of us, we'd be a much
more physically fit society!" But, humor aside, there's an explanation for
why this occurs. "The reason for spontaneous orgasms during certain
activities is twofold—increased blood flow to the genitals and vibration
of or contact with the clitoris. The increased blood flow and the general
relaxation of a massage can lead to orgasm sometimes, too."

10. For most women, it takes a while…
Many women take longer to climax than their male partners, and that's
perfectly normal, says Stern. In fact, according to statistics, most women
require at least 20 minutes of sexual activity to climax. "If you find
that your partner often reaches orgasm before you do, there are ways to
help him slow down," she says. "Mental exercises can sometimes work, and
so can firm pressure around the base of the penis. If premature
ejaculation is a concern, your partner may want to see a primary care
doctor or urologist to find some techniques that might help."